Sometimes, we are really hilarious...

Wow, how long has it been since I've written something? I suppose when you are writing a thesis, all your writing energy is focused on that. Well, my thesis is written and the hiadus is over! Thank you for having me back *takes a bow*

I did not come back to this blog randomly. In fact, it came up in the mist of my job searching on Craigslist while watching an episode of The Golden Girls. I just hope I don't get a hit by that aweful Craigslist killer. Anyway, as I looked at the job postings, there was one for "relationship blogger". That certainley peaked my interest enough to send in a few of my articles that I have written in the past. I tried to send ones that were light and entertaining while also empowering and enlightening. Well, I only had a few of them. Most of them were "I'm pissed off at him/her", "Why me?", "I am two seconds from crawling in the dark and listening to Sade", or "I'm a strong black woman, hear me roar". However, many of them were not light. And the ones that were light I wrote when I was completing undergrad at A&T (Insert an Aggie Pride here: AGGIE PRIDE).

Sure, I am great about talking about relationships that I have rarley been in or the dating experience that I have TOO much experience in. But most of it is from an angry or frustrated place. Has dating really caused me to become angry or negative about relationships? Has my dating experiences made me bitter? God forbid, have I become that Angela Basset character in "Waiting to Exhale" blowing up my ex's car with a smile on my face? The one blog/writing I did do about "Just Friends" and "Ode to Single Women" are my favorite blogs/posts because they were outside of that character. They sheaded some positive, yet inspiring light on relationships and dating. They asked major questions that I would ask from day to day without making the reader feel like I'm about to cut my wrist (don't worry, I don't plan on mutilating myself).

The truth is, dating and relationships can be funny, entertaining, and thought-provoking all at the same time. We like to male bash or women bash frequently. After all, dating brings out that side of us. But how about those funny memories and experiences we have in this dating world. If we cannot make light of this, then how can we enjoy it? We are in this dating game, playing it to the best of our abilities. Yet we can't find some light in it? If we find ourselves dating again, then we should find some instances in our interactions with people that are actually funny. Sometimes, we are really hilarious.

I know, dating and funny seems like an oxymoron, but it really isn't. We are dealing with people. That by itself is hilarious. What do I mean by this? Let me give you some examples:

1 . Dating a guy who is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of you...but somehow it works. The ying to your yang...it is so evident in the music selections you two play in the car. He'd rather listen to songs with gun shots in them while you listen to the kind of music that should only be played in a coffee shop.

2. Being on a date with a guy, and while you are singing to yourself, he's telling you to stick to your day job. But tries to cover it up by saying, "Well you look beautiful while singing off-key!"

3. Talking in the phone with your boo on the late night hour...then getting interrupted by a scream because you found a bug crawling on your phone. How about phone sex now?

4. Telling the woman you are dating that you are leaving at 7pm when the movie really starts at 8:40pm so you will actually be on time.

5. Of course the "does this make me look fat" dilemma among men and women. By the way women, stop asking that question...you may get an awser you don't want or a lie. Either way, unproductive.

6. Driving home late at night, wondering why your windows look so foggy. Then realizing when you get home that you left them at his house. Don't worry, you get the "How the heck did you get home?" question

7. Tipsy after the first date with a guy from your class because you wanted to try the "Hurricane" drink...imagine trying to be "first date cute" with 2 Hurricanes and a Lemon Drop Martini in your system.

8. When a man is awakened by his girlfriend at 7am because she needs him to take her home to pick up her "feminine products"...needless to say, the man caved in and allowed her to keep a bag at his house.

9. Cooking somethingfor someone then realizing they were allergic to something you put in the dish. Ooopsies..want me to call 911 now? Your face is starting to swell up...

10. Eating something that causes gas and trying to hide it from the other person. "Um, what's that noise?"--"Nothing, just stomach growling." --"We just ate." --"Well, fine. If you want to know, it's gas."--"Um...okay."

These are probably somewhat lame, but funny experiences that may occur in the dating life that are often overlooked by the constant questioning and baggering. Sometimes we look at the negative parts of the relationships without taking the time to see the light, fun aspects of the relationship. Even if the relationship doesn't last, they brought some light in that season they were in your life. While you gained some insight, you also gained some laughs. Even though we may inquire about dating and relationships, there's nothing wrong with making some light of our situations. The older I get, the more I realize that this component is as important as finding the deeper lessons from each relationship.

Try it! Try thinking of those times that made you smile, those issues that you do ask without any bitterness or distain, or those confusing situations that arise from dating. I think that should be our focus sometimes. We can't always be in the dark when it comes to this dating thing. Don't worry, I plan to make an effort to make things a little lighter. I'm turning off Sade, turning on the light, and remembering to laughing while I date.